maybe the hatred comes from years of conplacency and slowly but surely this moves you away from communications ,which in turn i feel is the break donw of any relationship, then resentments set in which can build to hatred, questioning why didnt he/ she love me ect, wasnt i good enough, wasnt i enough... low self esteem... all equals loss of love for self and others...fear again... i feel love , real love is rare, to love unconditionally takes great courage and it all starts with yourself, the more one loves ones self the more able we are to share love. i made a promiss to myself about 2 years ago, to operate from a place of love, if i find myself operating from elsewhere i am self aware enough to rein it in, recognise and correct, and shes right people throw away love sometimes, i think they dont understand what love is, and what is love to you....... where does the love go.... its locked inside many that cant let it out.... and lovers that supposidly fall out of love... if they felt real love the love would still be there,even if it took someone years to recognise that the love is still there, its the hurting that can mask peoples perceptions, cloud your judgement and feelings.  i think when you love you love forever, even if its just a tiny part of your heart that loves a lost love... i dont feel love fades away at all, is always present if you just look and feel and sometime search deep within you.daily life throws us all curve balls, but they are all opertunitys to learn and grow, although societys rule do put pressure on people to put pressure on themselves, hence the saying, do what you love and everything will work out just fine...can be appiled to anything, you dont need some high flying job ect to experince love with self and tohers, but we do need money to live in this world..people get sidetracked away from love by many things!